When you stand in front of a mirror what do you see? I see dark circles, spots, beginnings of wrinkles and a tired face. I don’t see an attractive person. I don’t look at myself and think I’m beautiful. I think the complete opposite. I think my face looks very rat like.
I am overweight. I have a fat face. I have fat arms and very fat legs. A jelly stomach. I don’t hold myself in high esteem.
This may come as a surprise to those who know me. I am the loud one. The funny one. I always tell my family Christmas presents will include a series of limited edition photos of myself. But I don’t truly believe I’m beautiful.
I can hide it with makeup. I can create illusions of light and glow and slenderness. I feel good when I wear makeup. Like I’m worth more.
But why? Why do I hold my self worth in my appearance? Why do I feel the need to point out all of my physical flaws? Sometimes when I’m out and trying on clothes in a shop a sales assistant will bring something in she suggests. I turn them away with a “Oh no I’m too fat for that”. She will always respond and tell me I’m not but I never believe her. Because I know I am.
But I’m tired of feeling like this. Having no self worth. Beating myself down because of my supposed appearance.
It’s not just me. We all do it. Why can’t we love ourselves a little more and realise we are pretty awesome people?
When I go shopping with my son and he sits in the trolley he always lays head on my arms and cuddles me as we walk through the shops. Because he loves me. He doesn’t care what I look like or how many spots I have. All he cares about is making sure my fart noises are up to scratch and that I believe he’s a scary monster when he roars at me. He doesn’t care that I’m at my heaviest I have ever been when he snuggles into me every morning when we get up extra early so we can watch cartoons and have some time together before our day gets hectic. He doesn’t care my hair hasn’t been straightened when he falls over and needs cuddles from mummy. He just loves me because I’m me.
So this year my resolution is to love myself more. To let myself actually realise that I do good and am good. Appreciate myself. Hopefully this journey will include weight loss, but it won’t be by eating 500 calories a day. It will be with healthy nourishing foods and I will be about making my insides just as healthy as my outside. I’m going to do things for me and enjoy myself. This past year has been very long and very tough and it has really taken its toll.
I’m going to love myself this year and you should too.